Dr. Neil deGrasse Tyson on the defunding of NASA.
Its so true though
When anyone in the future asks you what line/scene/whatever you’re most proud of having written, just show them this.
I know some spidey cosplayers with tushes. Accuracy.
So my friend Eddie over at Food And Cosplay has a project highlighting bullying in the Cosplay community called #NotaCosplayer. He has been getting some stick from people who are willfully misunderstanding the point behind this project.
Not many know it but I was the inspiration behind this project so I guess it’s time I spoke out and explained why it is what it is and why it matters to me.
At the start of the year I almost quit attending events, making costumes or identifying as a cosplayer, I removed all mention of me as a ‘cosplayer’ from my page and if anyone referred to me as one I would actually say that ‘I am not a cosplayer.’ This was due to a complete drop in my confidence. Someone whom I respected in the community and whose opinion mattered to me told me that what I did was not proper cosplay and that I am not a cosplayer. I was told my photos would not get shared on cosplay pages and people don’t see me as a cosplayer.
I took this on board and I let it affect me. I felt that the cosplay community was policed by a cosplay elite and that I could not be a part of it without their approval. I was scared of calling what I did cosplay as I felt that people were laughing at me or judging me.
I relayed this story to Eddie and a couple of other cosplay friends whom I really respected and they were horrified. They supported me, told me that only I could define what I was and made me feel like I could still be a part of this community. We decided that there must be others who have experienced the same thing that I have and that they would appreciate support too.
Eddie gave me an opportunity to take the ‘you are not a cosplayer’ phrase and take ownership of it. I held my board defiantly, wearing cosplay and pointing out that someone thinks that because I do interpretation I am #NotaCosplayer.
Eddie now gets others to do the same. These people are clearly cosplayers but because someone thinks it’s not an accurate costume, they are too sexy, not sexy enough, too fat, no boobs etc then they do not deserve to call themselves a cosplayer.
We like to think that there is no bullying amongst our community but there is. Some of the comments that the cosplayers write on the boards(I must reiterate that they write these themselves) are made by people outside of the community, some are randoms on the internet and some are from fellow cosplayers that they respect.
The person who destroyed my confidence meant no offence. They were not, in their eyes, being nasty. They just had their own opinion of what cosplay is and I didn’t fit that idea. A lot of the comments that are made to the people in the project are not made to upset, but they do and that is what we want to highlight.
Cosplay is not an exclusive club. Cosplay is for everyone. Sometimes the things you say may be said in passing and wiothout intent but they will linger with the person you direct them at. They will play on their mind and mat even stop them doing what they love altogether.
I think the overriding message here is that you are not alone if you doubt yourself and also and most importantly, think about what you say! That person is a real person with real feelings and you may have more affect on them than you will ever understand.
Be nice to each other everyone. We are all the same underneath.
Dead. Fucking dead.